If your child is away in treatment, you may still be suffering from the sleep distress that was a part of being vigilant and worried. If so, nowâ€™s the time to reclaim your right to a good nightâ€™s sleep! Your child is safe and, for the time being, itâ€™s someone elseâ€™s job to be vigilant around the clock. A huge part of every parentsâ€™ job when their child is in treatment is to prepare for their return home. Youâ€™re a better parent (and employee, and friend, and everything) when youâ€™re taking good care of yourself. Sleep is at the core of self care; so nowâ€™s a great time to practice good sleep habits. I joke that learning to fall asleep and stay asleep has saved me thousands of dollars in carpentry, refrigerator repair, fly trapsâ€¦oh and plastic surgery. So if youâ€™re a light sleeper, an insomniac, or curfew cop on sabbatical, here are some things Iâ€™ve learned that will help you sleep like a baby.
We all experience lapses in self control. For a teenager who is struggling with other emotional issues, however, even a small lapseâ€”whether in the form of procrastinating, eating something not on the diet, or engaging in a compulsive behaviorâ€”can create a sense of defeat, adding to her feelings of depression and worthlessness.
Many experts agree that the negative effects of anger can be minimized by addressing the emotion in an honest, non-reactive manner. While ranting and raging tend to actually increase, rather than alleviate, anger (according to some studies), the healthy expression of anger can actually reduce its intensity and keep it from festering. In fact, the healthy communication of your full range of emotionsâ€”including angerâ€”can be a critical part of your difficult teenâ€™s healing process.
Like any crisis, a mental health emergencyâ€”whether depression, violence, self-harm, psychosis or addictionâ€”is generally symptomatic of a deeper, more pervasive dysfunction. Our tendency with family mental health emergencies, though, is to just treat the symptoms andâ€”once those are addressedâ€”get on with living the same life that caused those symptoms in the first place.
When we are motivated to be involved in relationships weâ€™re being driven to something that creates some of the most joy and peace in life: connectedness. Most of us want to connect and most of us want to be accepted by others. We just need to channel our efforts to meet these needs in a healthy direction. Thatâ€™s what we aim for with enmeshed relationships at Sunrise, to redirect relational energy in a direction that will bring out the most peace, connection, and growth possible.
Those in enmeshed relationships are often the last to see it. But with awareness you can start to recognize some of the signs: 1. If you cannot not tell the difference between your own emotions and those of a person with whom you have a relationship. 2. If you feel like you need to rescue someone from their emotions. 3. If you feel like you need someone else to rescue you from your own emotions. 4. If you and another person do not have any personal emotional time and space.
Following are some strategies that can help you make your way through this challenging time without being overwhelmed by its seeming enormity. These four simple strategies will help you with two critical tasks: learning to take better care of yourself and embracing hopeâ€”i.e. knowing that somehow, things will get better.
Even diagnosed emotional and behavioral disorders are often linked to personality traits that can have a very positive expression. Knowing this can help you avoid misguided attempts to quash personality traits in your adolescent that may just be temporarily misdirected. It can also help you be an encouragement to your child when he or she is struggling and can’t see the other side of things.